First Steps To Recovering Broken Trust
And Avoiding Divorce
Divorce isn’t necessarily a sure thing, but it does take some work to and action on your part to keep it from happening. This is especially true when you are the one who broke the trust you once had.
If you are the instigator of the situation the first thing to not do is to claim that you’ll change or make everything right. Unfortunately you cannot change time and correct things. Face facts and realize you can only go on from here and not change the past.
The next step is to take responsibility for your actions. Accepting fault is one the biggest steps you can take to help stop failure in the relationship. Also don’t try to justify the betrayal of your spouses’ trust. This will only cause more frustration and possible further break down of an already faltering situation.
Your actions will speak volumes about how serious and sincere you are about getting the trust back in your relationship. Don’t make your mistake again and don’t do anything that would make them question your motives.
Depending on your spouse and the severity of the trust breaking action it may take a very long time to recover. Bottom line, don’t get angry and don’t argue about it. Just accept and acknowledge that you were the one who messed up.
Healing broken trust can be a very rugged road. Depression, frustration, and arguing are many times part of the recovery process. You may need assistance whether in the form of professional help, assistance from your church, or perhaps even a helpful guide. Click the following link to learn more about a helpful guide to help reconcile your marriage.
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Hi,
We were going for divorce and were out of touch for 8 months, no communication, 15 days before the divoce my spouse came back and he wants me to give him another chance. It felt good, since he was the one who walked out and didn’t pay any attention to my hard work to make things work. He doesn’t beleive in counseling. But I have many heart broken issues with him, and I have lost a lot of trust on him. Even though he says he has changed and he understands what a marriage is about. I don’t think he does. Please help me how to bring some of the very hurtful things happen in our marriage by him and how it has broken me to him, in a very consturctive way. I am very afraid to bring up anything with him, due to past experince about very negatvie reaction. He is insisting I should talk to him about anything and everything. But I am totally skeptical…. Some of the major issue I have with him, he didn’t understadn what does mean by marriage, what does mean by responsibility towards each other, what does mean by respecting each other alone or in front of family members, about not telling the truth, some of the stuff i foudn out after separation, which happened before our meeting, but I know if I knew them I would have never married to him. This is why he hid them….
The pain, betrayal an hurt I got from him, I pushed them away and tried to move on with my life, but his coming back has brought memories of all these. I am having hard time beleiving the word and promises anymore..
Thanks